That Quarter Life Crisis

I’d say that the quarter life crisis millennials groan about is funny, except, it isn’t. As much as older generations would like to make light of it and believe that it is just made up, it’s real enough for psychological studies to have been carried out and for publications like The Guardian and Harvard Business…

By Process of Elimination

Your 20s is the time when you more or less have to start winging life on your own. No more instructions about what step should be next in your life and or when you’re supposed to take it. It’s absolutely confusing and terrifying for the lot of us who don’t know which direction we’re supposed…

Posting for myself

The past two weeks have been happily spent running around London, Leeds, and York. As The Boyfriend puts it, there’s photographer fodder no matter where I look, and I’ve rarely ever been this shutter happy. I’ve taken to posting my photos on Instagram, and for the first time since I started my account, there’s some…

The privilege to choose what’s right

Do not steal. Do not lie. Do not hurt others. They’re straightforward and unspoken rules that allow us to live in a society without crime. But despite their simplicity, there exists a large number of criminals and entire neighbourhoods are rife with crime. It is easier to decide not to understand how this happens. It…

Being shameless

I am an aspiring painter. I am an aspiring entertainer. I am… not getting anywhere because I have no idea how to promote myself. Raised to never talk about my abilities to others (because “people will notice it themselves without you boasting.”),  broadcasting what I can do feels so counterintuitive, I change the topic before…

Consistency: The Dilettante Problem

Dorian Grey, the wretched old man who got away with everything because of his Adonis-like good looks. He dabbled in music, art, and all sorts of other things – he was a dilettante. And the moment I read that about him, I realised I had found the one word to describe me. Dilettante. Like most…

Being a housewife would be better

“What do you want to be?” I couldn’t answer. Right now I’m still not so sure. I’ve narrowed down my list by a lot in the last year or so, but when he asked I didn’t know what to tell him. His answer to my silence: Why don’t you be a housewife? I told him…

Valentine’s Day

Two years ago, Valentine’s Day landed on a Friday. Just like the year before that, I had no special plans for the day, so I did what I always did: I made a video. I talked about Valentine’s Day and the traditions people around the world had for this particular holiday. After publishing the video,…

Real Talk: Marriage and baby making

As friends and acquaintances get hitched, I hit the virtual books to find out if there are any real advantages or disadvantages to getting married at my age.

Traveling Perks

I’m broke. I’ve stopped frequenting cafés, eating out, and heading straight to the shops with bright red SALES banners. Now I pack almost everything in an adult lunchbox (a bunch of tupperware containers in a ziplock) and turn my head whenever I pass by my favourite shops. I tell everyone I’m broke. And yet, I’m…

Breaking up with friends

I have always thought that the F-word should be used sparingly and only under certain circumstances. Any word, when overused, loses its meaning, so I’m very choosy with the people I decide to call my friends. With social media, the word gets tossed around a lot and people have remedied it by grouping those they…

Being an adultier adult

Yesterday I did bank rounds and bought stuff for this little cottage industry business I’m trying to set up. I realized that I’ve been doing the grocery shopping for our home for awhile. I just settled my phone bill. I’ve also paid for the utilities and my iFlix (an Asian version of Netflix) subscription. I’ve…