That Quarter Life Crisis

I’d say that the quarter life crisis millennials groan about is funny, except, it isn’t. As much as older generations would like to make light of it and believe that it is just made up, it’s real enough for psychological studies to have been carried out and for publications like The Guardian and Harvard Business…

Being shameless

I am an aspiring painter. I am an aspiring entertainer. I am… not getting anywhere because I have no idea how to promote myself. Raised to never talk about my abilities to others (because “people will notice it themselves without you boasting.”),  broadcasting what I can do feels so counterintuitive, I change the topic before…

Consistency: The Dilettante Problem

Dorian Grey, the wretched old man who got away with everything because of his Adonis-like good looks. He dabbled in music, art, and all sorts of other things – he was a dilettante. And the moment I read that about him, I realised I had found the one word to describe me. Dilettante. Like most…

Being a housewife would be better

“What do you want to be?” I couldn’t answer. Right now I’m still not so sure. I’ve narrowed down my list by a lot in the last year or so, but when he asked I didn’t know what to tell him. His answer to my silence: Why don’t you be a housewife? I told him…

Real Talk: Marriage and baby making

As friends and acquaintances get hitched, I hit the virtual books to find out if there are any real advantages or disadvantages to getting married at my age.

Being an adultier adult

Yesterday I did bank rounds and bought stuff for this little cottage industry business I’m trying to set up. I realized that I’ve been doing the grocery shopping for our home for awhile. I just settled my phone bill. I’ve also paid for the utilities and my iFlix (an Asian version of Netflix) subscription. I’ve…

No more excuses

The last few months have been a dizzying blur. In an effort to feel useful, I said yes to all the possible work shifts at my day job, and yes to almost all sideline jobs that friends and family had to offer me. I barely had time left for coffee dates, dinner and Skype, but…